To keep the spark and passion in sex, it is important to never stop being creative. The originality, the exploration and the search of new sensations that you can share, is key so that you continue wishing always like the first day. And to help you awaken that creative spark, we are. Today we want to tell you about the Kunyaza, a technique of African origin that, although it is a bit complicated to pronounce, is incredibly easy to do and serves to praise female pleasure. It sounds good right? What is Kunyaza? We know it, we know it. That of Kunyaza sounds very strange to our Western ears. But you do not need to be scared. Kunyaza is a traditional technique that comes from the countries of central Africa, especially Rwanda. It consists, basically, in the external stimulation of the vulva with the glans until reaching the female orgasm. In Rwanda it is considered that getting a woman to orgasm is a matter of wisdom and honor. The man who manages to give his wife an orgasm can and should feel proud of himself. This is why the Kunyaza technique focuses on giving pleasure to women. The name "Kunyaza" refers to female ejaculation, which is the most common result of practicing this technique. The origin of this technique is based on a popular legend, which tells that while a king fought a war, the queen sought a lover. However, this other man did not dare to penetrate it for fear of possible reprisals from the king. He just rubbed his member against the queen's until she reached orgasm. Why should I try Kunyaza? The Kunyaza technique is a different way of having sex. It will help you to introduce variety in the bed and to detach from the "coitocentrism". Not all sex is penetration nor should you make this your goal. Practicing the Kunyaza is also very useful to discover new sensations and new ways of stimulating one another. Maybe there are areas that you thought were not erogenous or not very sensitive and that thanks to this technique you can rediscover. How to make a good Kunyaza? The key to this sexual technique is the rhythmic action of the glans on and around the clitoris and vulva. It can be done as preliminary phase or exclusively. It starts with soft caresses and little by little the pace and intensity increase. Step 1. The position. The two easiest positions to practice the Kunyaza are with the woman lying on her back and her legs wide open and with her knees bent or in the position of the puppy. Choose the one that is most comfortable for you and that you can keep for a long time. The Kunyaza is easy, but not necessarily fast. Step 2. Soft caresses. Begin by stimulating the labia majora and the clitoris with the glans penis. The man holds the base of his penis with his hand and performs the caresses, starting very softly. They can be caressed from top to bottom, in circular or zigzag movement. The question is to stimulate all the sensitive points little by little. Step 3. Increase in intensity. Once the woman begins to be more excited and lubricated, you can increase the intensity. Try to change the caresses by dry blows (not very strong, do not hurt yourself) in the same areas. You can also rub with more force or try with small pushes. It is important that you do only that which is pleasing to you, but do not forget to try things to get out of your comfort zone. Step 4. Penetration ... but not quite. At this point two things can happen: That you are having a blast and you reach orgasm just doing these caresses and blows or that you are so excited that you need a little more intensity. The second part of the sexual technique kunyaza also includes penetration, but in a special way: just the glans is introduced. It is about continuing to stimulate only the outermost part of the vagina. The man has to continue holding the base of his penis with his hand and can use it to, in addition to the classic movement of entry and exit, make circles and other different strokes. Keep it up until you reach orgasm. An advice.
Before starting, take a water-based lubricant and apply a good amount on both the penis and the vulva. The sensation of humidity and the soft touch will help the sensations to multiply. If you want, you can also try with a lubricant effect heat or cold effect, to further increase the excitement. If you want to know more about the origin of this curious and pleasurable sexual technique, we recommend that you watch the documentary Sacred Water that you can watch online here: Sacred Water Documentary Source: Lilith Room ”Sex is for the women. Her pleasure is the most important thing”. I am aligned with this bold statement long before but never knew the science of clubbing it into a pleasure practice. It was during one of our casual banters that my friend introduced me to a sexual pleasure practice “Kunyaza” which I initially thought to be the word kwanza. I have earlier learned about the word “Kwanza” which in Swahili means let’s begin and for many days I was fascinated with this African word. After a little digging the internet, I stumbled upon a very interesting concept and meticulous pleasure technique practiced in Africa since ancient times. The beautiful artistic word “Kunyaza” which in African language refers to a non-penetrative sexual practice that a man does for his woman to bring her to deeper orgasms during intercourse. The origin of this technique dates back to the pre-medieval era of Africa when the queen had the choice to mate with a man chosen by her to satiate her temptations. It reminded me of the queen bee in the beehive who chooses her mate for regeneration. Folk tradition unravels something like this: The queen chose one of her guards to have penetrative sex with her but due to performance anxiety, the guard failed and instead ended up rubbing his manhood against the genital - clitoris and labia of the queen. This satiated the queen very much and very quickly this pleasure technique was improvised into a full technique for the ultimate bliss. The torrent of pleasure which oozes out from Kunyaza demands time, emotion and love from the male partner. It is he who shall perform his duty for his lady love. Yes, the woman’s fleshy protuberant seeks undiluted attention and detailing which when given can engulf her and make her feel thrown in the boundless depth of ecstasies. Unconditional affection and dedication when practiced between lovers can only lead to the Kunyaza moments. A relationship needs time to explore each other in true sense and meaning. I was with my partner lying beside on a mattress one Saturday afternoon. It just rained because of northwester with a thunderstorm outside. The climate was set perfect for a deep conversation. The time had shut me in. A sudden gutsy wind wakes me up, a measured time factor prevails. I looked once again and tried stealing a glance from my partner. He was lying on the white cotton printed bedsheet with his hand folded on his forehead and eyes open. I had a feeling that his eyes and body could bury me deep. A relationship needs time with the partner and that’s what we were doing at that moment. What is the nature of a relationship that doesn’t demand quality but only instant physical merger? I looked once again over my shoulder and I still found him gazing at me with a smile. I could not say for how long! We embraced each other followed by the peck. I could see his manhood full grown but he did not move at all. I got a little annoyed and it was apparent but he managed to get my attention back by simply caressing my hand and I admit I fell for it. Slanting against me brushed his manhood against mine. I was tickled by the touch but he continued dotting my yoni with his manhood. He did it with lot of patience and time. The rubbing seemed like an incantation, a magical spell to me. My body signaled it for more.
Now that I look back, I could feel that life experience moment; it spanned the whole of afternoon ending quite late at the dusk. I slept, as usual beside him waking up only to be wrapped under his arms. Perhaps that’s was my only Kunyaza moment with my partner then. Kunyaza pleasure can only be felt in intense lovemaking moments that had very precious detailing. A man performs this detailed pleasure only for a woman he truly cares for because that feeling inclines him to restrain his haste for pleasure and instead dedicate his time and effort for her pleasure. In the past when I had meaningless relationships where I was a lustful object and men failed to understand my emotional and physical needs; I remember having gone on crying and shivering when I realized being subjugated. Love becomes the parameter to score the bliss moments. You can get instant gratification from casual sex moments but the wholesome, fulfilling, unforgettable pleasure can be gained only with ample time spent with your muse. Try Kunyaza tonight to know if your man loves you or not. Here are the steps for him : ) The male partner first stimulates the labia minora of his female partner by tapping; then rubs it with his penis and then, at a certain level of arousal, proceeds to stimulate the internal surfaces of the labia minora and the vulval vestibule, including the urinary meatus in the same manner, followed by stimulation of the clitoris, vulval vestibule, labia minora and the vaginal opening. The male partner penetrates her yoni with alternating shallow thrusts at the vaginal opening with deep thrusts pushing against the cervix while maintaining exaggerated circular movements between vagina walls in a "screwing" fashion during penetration, often facilitating the movement by holding the penis between the middle and the index finger. By Sutapa Sikdar Source: ComeSultra In rural Rwanda and Uganda, people venerate female pleasure. The local form of making love, called Kachabali in Uganda and Kunyaza in Rwanda, involves a man uses the head of his penis to massage the clitoris, labia, and opening of the vagina with circular, up-and-down and side-to-side motions. The vagina is also tapped or slapped rapidly, while he holds his shaft like a flashlight, between his thumb and fingers. When touched this way, many women experience multiple, squirting orgasms. Even the 80% of women who have difficulty with vaginal orgasms, find that the clitoral stimulation kachabali/kunyaza provides wakes up all the pleasure centers between her legs, says sex and intimacy coach for women, Zoe Kors Kunyaza according to American writer and political activist Joe Duncan: "Stepping outside of the world of American-centrism and a focus of western civilization in general and we find that other cultures, namely the cultures of East Africa have practiced sexual moves which facilitate both female orgasm and ejaculation for centuries. Among them are those from the Congo, Uganda, Rwanda, and other nations, but they all have practiced Kunyaza for a very long time. The Kunyaza is quite a lengthy and precise process by which a man stimulates a woman and brings her to orgasm (with ensuing ejaculation, which is sort of the point), through a strict sequence of steps that are repeated until she’s satisfied. Rather than just relying on penile insertion in combination with a back and forth motion of thrusting like we do here in the west, the man uses a series of motions to stimulate to full inside and outside of the vulva, starting with getting it lubricated by teasing the exterior vagina by rubbing his penis along it, up and down. Taking it like a cigar, he begins by placing his penis inside his hand, between his pointer finger and middle finger, and then he slaps it into the clitoral hood of his partner, striking it continuously while rotating his penis in circles, clockwise and counter clockwise to stimulate the outside of the vulva, the vagina." He then manages to fall into a rhythm where he does this and alternates entering into the woman’s vagina, then back out, then back in, all in one fluid motion as he thrusts back and forth. While the female orgasm and squirting may be ambiguous and cloaked in mystery here in the west, for centuries the peoples of East Africa have known about both, and developed this very practice specifically to bring about both. Source: Joe Duncan, Gush: The Comprehensive Guide to Female Squirting King of Kachabali. King of Kunyaza
By Erika Harris He reads her labia as the sacred script that it is. He is a pussy devotee, and he has been endowed with The Power Of The Hand. And also, The Power Of The Wait. He has the power to wait for her, without hurry or expectation. He is genitally generous. Circling and churning her honey-pot. His wrist rotates… spins, like a whirling dervish. Cockwise. Counter-cockwise. He wants only to reunite the glans of his erect penis with the glans of her erect clitoris. He will let supple, sensitized skin do its thing. He will not frantically plow into her… like a big, dopey porn-ox. This wise womb-worshipper knows that most of the best-feeling places in her vagina-temple are actually near its doors. The lipsss. So that is where he puts all his focus and energy, simply sliding slickness all around there… rhythmically tapping and gliding between her slippery folds with his warm, silky head… penetrating ever-so-briefly, and not even all the way… This teasing, pulsing prayer makes her vulva, with its 8,000 clitoral nerve endings, reach toward him like a hungry mouth, wide open to this attentive King who brings her from dry to drenched. From thirsty to quenched. Y’know misogyny? This is the opposite. If ever something could transform patriarchy into ecstasy, this is it. Such giving Kings, your Queens adore you. Source: Erika Harris Spanish sexuality journalist, Brenda B. Lennox explores Rwanda's kunyaza legend in this erotic tale about a woman's journey to gushing pleasure after discovering the sacred technique to female ejaculation. Kunyaza I met Kamagere in the presentation of the book Gaal Gui (The cayuco) of my friend Youssouf Sow, in which he tells his odyssey from Senegal to Mauritania and his journey in cayuco to Spain. Kamagere had also emigrated and suffered slavery in inhuman factories, the abuse of the mafias, the long journey across the Mediterranean in defiance of death, the deep pain of seeing his comrades die and how the sailors threw their corpses into the sea, the impotence of being confined to the detention centers upon their arrival in the “Promised Land”, the humiliation of selling pirated DVDs. However, a perpetual smile illuminated his ebony face. He was alive, not like all his friends and family that were killed by machetes during the genocide. He was alive, yes. And he honoured life. He invited me to take a coffee in his house. I accepted. We spoke about his country, Rwanda, that of the Great Lakes, that of the thousand hills, that of the million dead. "What does your name mean?" I asked. He blushed. "The legend tells that many years ago, the queen asked a soldier named Kamagere to satisfy her. The king was always absent in his military campaigns and she felt the fire of volcanoes burning inside her. Kamagere was nervous, his body trembled uncontrollably and the tremor gave such pleasure to the queen that water gushed out of her sex. From then on, men searched inside women for the sacred spring. And when it flows, we bathe in the water that flows from their land, source of life, in a baptism of fire." I got excited. I wanted to feel the pleasure of the queen, the vibration of his sex into my sex, the flow of my wellspring over his face. I kissed him and his mouth responded me. The tongues played while we undressed. The bodies intertwined in a perfect yin and yang. He laid me on the bed and spread my legs. He stretched my lower lips and sucked them to moisten them. He brought his erect member to my vulva and caressed it tracing lines, circles, spirals. He inserted the glans and I raised my hip, but he held me gently and remained motionless. His eyes ordered and I gave up. He continued to fuck me the entrance of my sex with geometric figures, pushing slowly until touched the bottom, taking it out again to caress my vulva, fucking the entrance of my sex with geometric figures, pushing slowly until touched the bottom over and over and over again. The walls of my vagina vibrated like a drum. My body danced to the beat of its ancestral music. Its atavistic rhythm cracked the dam and I flowed like a waterfall. "Amavangigo!" He cried, as he bathed in it. Land I was reborn with Kamagere and languished when he left. Rwanda needed his strength to resurface after pain and death. It hurt me, we both knew it was the end of ours, but who was I to prevent the return of a son? The months passed and I withered without his voice telling me legends, without his smile scaring my demons, without the sacred water that he made sprout of my sex. I could not help it, I called him to confess that I missed him. "I feel empty without you. You made me queen, land, river". "Daughter of the earth, source of life. The sacred water inhabits you. Does a wellspring need a man to flow like a river after the rain?" The end-of-call beeps resounded like a drum: water, life, land, land, LAND… I lay down on the bed and walked, slowly, over the land of my body: the mountain peaks, the fertile hills, the grass-covered mountain . I went into its depths, with closed eyes, guiding me with my fingers. The walls oozed like those of a cenote, burned like a volcanic tube, vibrated announcing the underground current. I caressed the crack that separated me from it and the sacred water gushed like a river, overflowed my sex, flowed between my thighs. And I received it with my hands to rain on my land and be fertile again. "Amavangigo," I whispered. “Amavangigo, Kamagere. Amavangigo.” Author's note
Kunyaza is a term given to a traditional sexual practice, developed and practiced mainly in Central Africa (in some regions of Rwanda, Congo, eastern Uganda and eastern Tanzania) and the Great Lakes region in East Africa, which is intended to facilitate female ejaculation. Amavangigo is the liquid excreted during kunyaza. It is thick, transparent, slightly sticky and odourless. It is considered the source of life. Brenda B. Lennox "In Rwanda, people know more about female orgasm than any other country in the world," says Swiss journalist Barbara Achermann. Rwandan sex educator, Vestine Dusabe, is on a mission to empower women with kunyaza - the art of female ejaculation. Kunyaza is an African sex technique triggering female ejaculation and multiple orgasms in women during heterosexual encounters. The ancient technique from Rwanda began with a woman, was passed down by women and is mainly taught by women, known as ssengas (female sex educators). Vestine Dusabe, 35, is a popular ssenga, radio host and sexologist from Rwanda. She hosts of one of the country's most popular radio programs, a talk show that revolves around the relationships and female pleasure. Traveling around east and central Africa, Dusabe wants to revive Rwanda's sexual traditions and spread pleasure. During a candid interview with Barbara Achermann, the charismatic sex educator gives a fascinating insight into her life, culture and heritage. African Kamasutra Sex techniques and positions are passed on from generation to generation orally, a kind of African kamasutra. The erotic doctrine, which deals with female ejaculation, is called kunyaza; the name means "to urinate". The point is that the man elicits the "sacred water", to bring a woman to climax. The female ecstasy is a motif that appears again and again in poems and songs - even in Rwandan mythology. According to legend, kunyaza originates from a queen whose orgasmic flow was so copious that it formed Lake Kiku. Intrigued by the legend, Vestine Dusabe sets out to keep the tradition alive and change attitudes towards sex and female pleasure in her native country. Kunyaza is largely unknown in Europe. A few studies and documentaries have dealt with the female-friendly love tradition. Europe's Obsession with FGM "Your (western) media are obsessed with the bloody clitoris circumcisions in Somalia or in Ethiopia," says Vestine. "You cling to the image of the primitive African who oppresses his wife. You could still learn a lot from us!" In fact, in Rwanda, nobody would think of taking a rusty razor blade to the most vulnerable spot on a girl's genitalia. Nor in about thirty other African countries where female genital mutilation (FGM), according to the Unicef children's charity, is rare. Vestine shudders when she thinks of cutting off the clitoris and sewing the labia together. However, the educated sexologist is annoyed that the reports about FGM form the dominant narrative about African sexuality. "Africa," she says, "being bigger than Europe, the US, China, Japan and India together, yet the continent is treated as a single sick country, of which there is only violence and misery to report." The Eiffel Tower "I'll solve the mystery now," Dusabe says she likes to use metaphors on the radio, locating the key to the "holy water" (female ejaculation) she addressed at the beginning of the program "Eiffel Tower between the legs of the woman." But she can also name things by name: during kunyaza, she explains, the man takes the penis in his hand and taps rhythmically on the clitoris and the labia minora or moves in a circular motion above it. Dusabe demonstrates this by taking a coke bottle between her thumbs and forefinger, and shaking it lightly. In the local Rwandan language of Kinyarwanda there is a fixed turn for the smacking noise which arises at the same time: "the dog drinking water." Kunyaza is ancient. No one knows exactly how old, because it has always been passed down orally, but it is believed that this eroticism goes back to the 16th century. European Sexual Latecomers "In comparison with the Rwandans, we, Swiss, are sexual latecomers. Presumably the Rwandans would have laughed at Sigmund Freud had they been there when he fantasized the vaginal orgasm to the only true climax and dismissed the clitoral orgasm as "immature". Or even better, they would have told him that the monotone in-out did not match Better yet, they would have told him that the monotone in-out has nothing to do with savvy love-art - and there spent a lot of uninspired love nights with the western women," said Barbara Achermann. Lost Traditions "It seemed to me that our traditions had died in the genocide. Many did not remember what kunyaza was. Even Gukuna was gone." said Vestine. She makes a movement with her hands as if she were milking a cow. Peter mumbles something about the toilet and gets up. Gukuna, explains Vestine, signifies the extension of the labia minora. Until a hundred years ago, women in Rwanda hardly wore clothes. For reasons of hygiene, they stretched their labia long to form a sort of curtain for the vagina that protected them from dust and bacteria. So they could sit naked on the ground without catching an inflammation. Another reason was childbirth. The tissue is pre-stretched by the massages and thus breaks less during childbirth. Under the pretext that they were looking for brushwood in the undergrowth, the women met in clay groups. They collected herbs that they stamped in a mortar and mixed with butter, then they rolled out their bast mats, stroked the ointment between his legs and, Vestine makes again the milking motion, pulled each other's labia long. "Useful, but not only that. You can imagine that it can be fun." Collective masturbation appealed to women, but the Catholic Church that spread to Rwanda at the beginning of the 20th century was appalled. The European missionaries banned gukuna, but it survived. Relationship Counsellor Vestine visits small communities to teach them about Rwanda's erotic traditions. During one visit, Vestine turns to a man with yellow teeth: "Are you married?" he nods. "Then please tell us how you sleep with your wife." He looks at her from the side, "What can I say? I'm going slowly. "Some laugh. "That's not bad!" Says Vestine. Then she asks everyone to send a text message to her sweetheart. Something like, "Sweetheart I'm looking forward to seeing you tonight." The man with the yellow teeth hesitates. "She'll think I'm obsessed with the devil." Vestine is more than a gym teacher, she knows that sex is not just technique and position, it's also about relationship, empathy, trust and caring for each other for years to come. She speaks without sounding moral, telling anecdotes from her own marriage. Sex is The Most Egalitarian Thing in the World And, "How is kissing?" Vestine knew that question would come. It always comes. While some of the men present are savvy lovers, others do not even know how to kiss with the tongue. "You wash your face first and brush your teeth. Then you practice with a candy, playing hide-and-seek with it and sucking on the lower lips. But not too tight! "Vestine makes a face as if she had bitten her lip. The man with the yellow teeth laughs tears. "Rest, please!" Shouts an elderly gentleman with a carefully ironed shirt and swinging his cane as if he had a firm role in this comedy. He thanked Vestine for the clever lecture that he was attached to the ignorance of today's youth. Vestine sends the men out. She wants to talk to the women alone: "Tonight you are up!" No sooner have the men left than the shyness of the women has disappeared. Vestine now also puts them under the obligation that in kunyaza the women should not only skim off, they also have to do something: "Do not lie there like a corpse, join in, moan, cry when you feel like it." She shows them how she circles with her hips during sex, "makes a zero, an eight or just your favourite number." Kunyaza works like the flu, you're pestering each other: when she's feverish, so does he too. And in the end, you come together. Happy ending for the people out here in Matimba.
Their lives are hard, they toil, they often eat only two meals a day, they have to do without much. But an orgasm is free, he is there for everyone. "You can have at least as much fun as the bigwigs in Kigali," says Vestine. She's right, I think, sex is probably the most egalitarian thing in the world. Especially in this equal Rwandan variant, Barbara Achermann says. Source: Real21 Kunyaza is a sexual practice from Rwanda that causes female orgasms during sexual intercourse. What is Kunyaza? Literally, the word kunyaza refers "to urinate." In the context of the sexual practice, kunyaza refers to the inducement of kunyara (female ejaculation or squirting) during heterosexual encounters. Several women report experiencing multiple orgasms with this technique, many of which are intense. Kunyaza Technique The kunyaza technique involves the tapping, stroking and rubbing of the penis on the vulva and clitoris to bring the woman to climax. Before penetration, the technique is used to ignite female desire and prepare the women for sexual intercourse. Kunyaza Sex During penetration, shallow and deep thrusts are alternated with circular movements at the vaginal entrance in order to stimulate the woman's G-spot area and encourage female ejaculation and orgasms. Kunyaza Tradition
Kunyaza has a long tradition, because in traditional Rwanda culture, sexuality is a relatively open topic. A woman may express disappointment in public when a man has not brought her to orgasm. Check out Kunyaza: The Secret To Female Pleasure to find out more. Kunyaza is a traditional African technique promising intense wet orgasms for women during heterosexual encounters. The ancient technique from Rwanda began with a woman, was passed down by women and is mainly taught by women, known as ssengas (female sex educators). Below are four prominent female sex educators of kunyaza; 1. Vestine Dusabe, Rwandan Sexologist Radio personality and sex educator from Kigali, Rwanda, Vestine Dusabe, is a popular advocate of gukuna and kunyaza, ancient sexual practices from Rwanda. Dusabe also hosts an award-winning Rwandan radio show on Flash FM tackling relationship counselling and sex education. In 2016, Dusabe was featured in Olivier Jourdain’s kunyaza documentary film Sacred Water, where she was the film’s protagonist. 2. Valentine Njoroge, Kenyan Feminist Sex and feminist sex writer, Valentine Njoroge hosts an online show called Ask Valentine, to ‘awaken African sexuality.’ A self-proclaimed feminist, Njoroge tackles women’s issues in contemporary Kenya, challenges traditional relationship and says that “talking about sex is easily the biggest taboo (in Kenya).” Njoroge is committed to promoting female sexuality and pleasure for African women. Njoroge is also a panellist on The She Word, an TV programme produced by BBC Africa. 3. Betty Nalongo, Ugandan Sex Educator Ugandan ssenga, Betty Katana Nalongo, teaches women in her village, the kachabali (kunyaza) technique to ensure a healthy sex life. From the Baganda tribe in Uganda, Nalongo was subject to a documentary piece by a Kenyan journalist who interviewed her in Kampala, Uganda, which aired on the Dutch public broadcaster, VPRO for the Metropolis TV Show. A satisfying sex life, for both the husband and wife is an important component of a good marriage in traditional Baganda culture. Women often visit ssenga Nalongo to learn some of her ‘bedroom secrets.’ 4. Angelica Lindsey-Ali, The Village Auntie Certified sexual health educator Angelica Lindsey-Ali, also known as ‘The Village Auntie’ is a kunyaza expert and lecturer who offers practical advice and resources for “reconnecting women with traditional African femininity and sexuality from an Islamic perspective.” Inspired by female sex educators in African villages, Lindsey-Ali aims to revive the role of the ssenga tradition to the Americas where she introduces women from different ethnic backgrounds and religions to traditional African beauty and sexual practices such as kunyaza, vaginal steaming, African waistbeads, qasil (soap leaf), huruud (turmeric) and twerk dancing. ![]() A trailblazer in the field of traditional African sexuality in the United States, Lindsey-Ali has garnered much praise for her workshops and retreats on sexual health and female pleasure. New book explores kunyaza technique promising intense wet-orgasms for women. This ancient African technique centring female sensuality is attracting worldwide interest. According to sex experts, kunyaza helps 90% of women experience ejaculation during heterosexual encounters. Kunyaza is a traditional sexual technique which helps women experience multiple orgasms and female ejaculation with a male partner. This African technique involves the stimulation of the clitoris (“K-Spot”) with the penis head in horizontal and zigzagging movements. The K-Spot The K-Spot refers to the internal and external part of the clitoris; including the clitoral glans, crus clitoris, and corpus cavernosum. During kunyaza, the penis striking of the K-Spot provokes a large gush of fluid, commonly referred to as ‘squirting’. The fluid expulsion is usually accompanied with an intense orgasm. A phenomenon known as ‘wet orgasm’ or ‘kunyaza orgasm.’ 90% of women report ejaculation from kunyaza, according to Rwandan sexologist Vestine Dusabe. American sexual health educator, Angelica Lindsey-Ali, also known as The Village Auntie, said 95% of her female students self-reported wet-orgasms after learning about the technique. “It’s the easiest and most effective technique to achieve female ejaculation,” Lindsey-Ali says. Research has also found that kunyaza is an effective technique for women suffering female orgasmic disorder and it can trigger an orgasm in less than five minutes, says Dr. Nsekuye Bizimana. African Kama Sutra Originally from Rwanda, east Africa, kunyaza is also practised in Uganda and Kenya where it is known as kachabali. In recent years it has grown in popularity in Belgium, Brazil, Germany, and the United States of America. Olivier Jourdain, the Belgian director of the kunyaza documentary Sacred Water, said, “I was amazed to discover a culture of sexuality in Rwanda, opposed to our Western approach, which is usually much more individual. Were we talking about some kind of African Kama Sutra?” Others have described kunyaza as ‘African tantra.’ Similar to tantra sex, kunyaza is said to bring lovers closer together emotionally and spiritually by channelling dormant sexual energy through the body’s energy centres. Sacred Sensuality According to traditional Rwandan culture, the female orgasm is sacred and men are expected to ensure their wives are well-satisfied in the bedroom. It’s widely believed that women have a God-given right to pleasure. Sex for pleasure was not only socially acceptable but it was highly recommended in pre-colonial Africa before the Europeans brought their prudish attitudes to African societies. “The concept that a happy, healthy society is one where the women are sexually satisfied intuitively makes a lot of sense. When female ejaculation is treated like a myth, women are held back from accessing all that their bodies are truly capable of and men are disempowered from fully pleasuring their partners,” says journalist Natasha Gillezeau. The Secret to Female Pleasure German-based Rwandan researcher Dr. Nsekuye Bizimana authored a number of books in German and French about Rwandan culture and the sexual practice of kunyaza. However, the first book in English to explore Rwanda’s sexual history and the kunyaza tradition was recently published in November 2018. The book, Kunyaza: the Secret to Female Pleasure, examines the cultural impact of Rwanda’s pleasure-based sensual tradition and analyses cultural attitudes towards female ejaculation. Drawing upon the research of western-trained sexologists, African sex educators, and psychologists, the book challenges Western attitudes towards human sexuality which tends to be phallocentric. The book also breaks down the stigma surrounding female ejaculation, provides practical sex advice, and includes an illustrated guide on how to make a woman squirt. To find out more, check out Kunyaza: The Secret to Female Pleasure by Habeeb Akande on Amazon or Rabaah Store.
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