Women are four times more likely to say sex wasn't pleasurable compared to men. A phenomenon known as the “pleasure gap.” Men orgasm 20% to 50% more than women during sexual encounters ("orgasm gap"). Sex and wellness coach, The Village Auntie, aims to close these gaps with her expert advice on female pleasure, African sexual techniques and more!
Who is the Village Auntie?
Angelica Lindsey-Ali is a certified sexual health educator and wellness coach with over 20 years of experience in sex education. Popularly known as The Village Auntie, Lindsey-Ali provides one-to-one coaching and women-only workshops on sex, intimacy, and womanhood from an African and Islamic perspective.
Lindsey-Ali is a pioneer in Muslim sex education and a leading expert of kunyaza (an African technique to elicit female ejaculation/squirting and female orgasm). Traditionally in Africa, women known as ssengas, would teach this technique to women who in turn in turn teach it to their partners.
Drawing upon her clinical, cultural and religious training, Lindsey-Ali brings her wealth of experience and expertise to teach ladies the secrets of female pleasure in a holistic and intimate way.
“In traditional African societies, there was always at least one woman in the village, a teacher and guide. Parents send their daughters to her when they begin their menses. She advises young brides in the weeks leading up to marriage. We have lost connection with these old folkways. My mission is to reclaim them. We owe it to ourselves, our sisters, our daughters. I am striving to be a guide back to the ways of our foremothers. Sex is not something we have to shy away from. Our beloved Rasulallah (saws) taught us to not have shame when learning about our deen. Sex is a part of life. #TheVillageAuntie can teach you,” Lindsey-Ali says.
Angelica Lindsey-Ali is a certified sexual health educator and wellness coach with over 20 years of experience in sex education. Popularly known as The Village Auntie, Lindsey-Ali provides one-to-one coaching and women-only workshops on sex, intimacy, and womanhood from an African and Islamic perspective.
Lindsey-Ali is a pioneer in Muslim sex education and a leading expert of kunyaza (an African technique to elicit female ejaculation/squirting and female orgasm). Traditionally in Africa, women known as ssengas, would teach this technique to women who in turn in turn teach it to their partners.
Drawing upon her clinical, cultural and religious training, Lindsey-Ali brings her wealth of experience and expertise to teach ladies the secrets of female pleasure in a holistic and intimate way.
“In traditional African societies, there was always at least one woman in the village, a teacher and guide. Parents send their daughters to her when they begin their menses. She advises young brides in the weeks leading up to marriage. We have lost connection with these old folkways. My mission is to reclaim them. We owe it to ourselves, our sisters, our daughters. I am striving to be a guide back to the ways of our foremothers. Sex is not something we have to shy away from. Our beloved Rasulallah (saws) taught us to not have shame when learning about our deen. Sex is a part of life. #TheVillageAuntie can teach you,” Lindsey-Ali says.
What is The Village Auntie Movement?
The Village Auntie Movement was started by Lindsey-Ali to address the wealth of misinformation in the Muslim community, particularly amongst Muslim women about sexual health and sexual pleasure from an Islamic perspective.
“The Village Auntie movement is not really about sex.” Lindsey-Ali explains, “It is about empowerment and the reclamation of culture.”
The Village Auntie Movement was started by Lindsey-Ali to address the wealth of misinformation in the Muslim community, particularly amongst Muslim women about sexual health and sexual pleasure from an Islamic perspective.
“The Village Auntie movement is not really about sex.” Lindsey-Ali explains, “It is about empowerment and the reclamation of culture.”
The Pleasure and Orgasm Gap
The “pleasure gap” refers to the sexual pleasure disparity between men and women. Statistically, women are four times more likely to find sex less pleasurable than men. The most important factors of pleasure for women involve clitoral stimulation and physical contact (touching and kissing).
During sex, 65% of heterosexual women usually-always orgasm, compared to 95% of heterosexual men, according to a US study of 52,588 people. 86% of lesbian women and 89% of gay men usually-always orgasm during sex, the study found. This disparity is known as the “orgasm gap.”
The fact that lesbian women orgasmed more often than heterosexual women indicates that many heterosexual women could experience higher rates of orgasm. Cultural ignorance of the clitoris is considered to be the number one reason for the orgasm gap according to sex therapist and psychologist Laurie Mintz.
In Muslim communities, women’s right to sexual pleasure and orgasm is rarely discussed due to cultural reasons. The Village Auntie is on a mission to close the pleasure gap in Black and Muslim communities by empowering women to understand their right to sexual pleasure.
Exploring African femininity and sacred sensuality, The Village Auntie offers intimate women-only workshops, seminars and one to one sex coaching with tips on reaching sexual fulfilment, the kunyaza sexual technique, and 15 routes to the female orgasm.
“Women have a right to pleasure. Women have a right to orgasm,” Lindsey Ali says
Closing the Pleasure Gap With Kunyaza
The majority of women experience female ejaculation from the kunyaza technique, according to The Village Auntie, who says,
"Kunyaza has been extremely effective, even for women who thought they’d never be able to ejaculate. If I have taught the technique to 100 (female) students, roughly, I would say 95 of them are able to achieve female ejaculation by using kunyaza. This is of course, based on self-reporting."
Women who experience ejaculation say that is feels pleasurable. Many women describe the sensation of squirting as more powerful than a clitoral or vaginal orgasm. Others describe it as “extremely gratifying,” “the ultimate sexual expression,” and "the best feeling."
The “pleasure gap” refers to the sexual pleasure disparity between men and women. Statistically, women are four times more likely to find sex less pleasurable than men. The most important factors of pleasure for women involve clitoral stimulation and physical contact (touching and kissing).
During sex, 65% of heterosexual women usually-always orgasm, compared to 95% of heterosexual men, according to a US study of 52,588 people. 86% of lesbian women and 89% of gay men usually-always orgasm during sex, the study found. This disparity is known as the “orgasm gap.”
The fact that lesbian women orgasmed more often than heterosexual women indicates that many heterosexual women could experience higher rates of orgasm. Cultural ignorance of the clitoris is considered to be the number one reason for the orgasm gap according to sex therapist and psychologist Laurie Mintz.
In Muslim communities, women’s right to sexual pleasure and orgasm is rarely discussed due to cultural reasons. The Village Auntie is on a mission to close the pleasure gap in Black and Muslim communities by empowering women to understand their right to sexual pleasure.
Exploring African femininity and sacred sensuality, The Village Auntie offers intimate women-only workshops, seminars and one to one sex coaching with tips on reaching sexual fulfilment, the kunyaza sexual technique, and 15 routes to the female orgasm.
“Women have a right to pleasure. Women have a right to orgasm,” Lindsey Ali says
Closing the Pleasure Gap With Kunyaza
The majority of women experience female ejaculation from the kunyaza technique, according to The Village Auntie, who says,
"Kunyaza has been extremely effective, even for women who thought they’d never be able to ejaculate. If I have taught the technique to 100 (female) students, roughly, I would say 95 of them are able to achieve female ejaculation by using kunyaza. This is of course, based on self-reporting."
Women who experience ejaculation say that is feels pleasurable. Many women describe the sensation of squirting as more powerful than a clitoral or vaginal orgasm. Others describe it as “extremely gratifying,” “the ultimate sexual expression,” and "the best feeling."
The Village Auntie UK Tour in 2020
The Village Auntie, also known as The American Queen of Kunyaza, will be visiting UK in 2020 as part of her UK tour.
UK based organisations and women’s group that are interested in hosting a Village Auntie speaking engagement or workshop, please email the team at [email protected]
The Village Auntie, also known as The American Queen of Kunyaza, will be visiting UK in 2020 as part of her UK tour.
UK based organisations and women’s group that are interested in hosting a Village Auntie speaking engagement or workshop, please email the team at [email protected]
The Village Auntie Article
Real Talk with the 'Village Auntie' – On Intimacy Between Married Couples
https://www.hautehijab.com/blogs/hijab-fashion/interview-with-the-village-auntie
Podcasts with The Village Auntie
Kim Cavill, Sex education teacher and creator of Six Minute Sex Ed podcast
Ep 42: How to talk about pleasure with The Village Auntie - Level Two
https://soundcloud.com/user-233677690/ep-42-how-to-talk-about
Ep 43 - The Islamic Rights of Wives & the Art of Teaching Pleasure - Level Two
https://soundcloud.com/user-233677690/43-bonus-episode-the-islamic
Islam As A Sex Positive Religion & Shaming Female Pleasure – Amaliah podcast. Soundcloud - https://soundcloud.com/amaliahpodcast/islam-as-a-sex-positive-religion-and-shaming-vs-modesty-small-talk-w-angelica-lindsey-ali
High Sex Drives, Cultural Expectations (Lights On with Angelica Lindsey-Ali) – Amaliah podcast. Soundcloud - https://soundcloud.com/amaliahpodcast/lights-on-with-angelica-lindsey-ali-ep1
101 on Orgasms, Wedding Night Myths (Lights On with Angelica Lindsey-Ali) – Amaliah podcast. Soundcloud - https://soundcloud.com/amaliahpodcast/lights-on-with-angelica-lindsey-ali-ep2
EPISODE 2 - The Pleasure Principle: Sexual Self Care for Black Women - Episode 2 (The Venus Clapback podcast) – YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xRGlUlzpPLE
Black Women and Sexual Self Care (Pt. II) - Season 2, Ep. 5 (The Venus Clapback podcast) – YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=raG0RyFNiio
Episode 51: Heyy Auntie” (featuring The Village Auntie) (Identity Politics podcast) – 9 July 2019
http://identitypoliticspod.com/episodes/episode-51-heyyy-auntie-ft-the-village-auntie/
Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby (The Double Shift), 20 May 2019
http://thedoubleshift.libsyn.com/lets-talk-about-sex-baby
Real Talk with the 'Village Auntie' – On Intimacy Between Married Couples
https://www.hautehijab.com/blogs/hijab-fashion/interview-with-the-village-auntie
Podcasts with The Village Auntie
Kim Cavill, Sex education teacher and creator of Six Minute Sex Ed podcast
Ep 42: How to talk about pleasure with The Village Auntie - Level Two
https://soundcloud.com/user-233677690/ep-42-how-to-talk-about
Ep 43 - The Islamic Rights of Wives & the Art of Teaching Pleasure - Level Two
https://soundcloud.com/user-233677690/43-bonus-episode-the-islamic
Islam As A Sex Positive Religion & Shaming Female Pleasure – Amaliah podcast. Soundcloud - https://soundcloud.com/amaliahpodcast/islam-as-a-sex-positive-religion-and-shaming-vs-modesty-small-talk-w-angelica-lindsey-ali
High Sex Drives, Cultural Expectations (Lights On with Angelica Lindsey-Ali) – Amaliah podcast. Soundcloud - https://soundcloud.com/amaliahpodcast/lights-on-with-angelica-lindsey-ali-ep1
101 on Orgasms, Wedding Night Myths (Lights On with Angelica Lindsey-Ali) – Amaliah podcast. Soundcloud - https://soundcloud.com/amaliahpodcast/lights-on-with-angelica-lindsey-ali-ep2
EPISODE 2 - The Pleasure Principle: Sexual Self Care for Black Women - Episode 2 (The Venus Clapback podcast) – YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xRGlUlzpPLE
Black Women and Sexual Self Care (Pt. II) - Season 2, Ep. 5 (The Venus Clapback podcast) – YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=raG0RyFNiio
Episode 51: Heyy Auntie” (featuring The Village Auntie) (Identity Politics podcast) – 9 July 2019
http://identitypoliticspod.com/episodes/episode-51-heyyy-auntie-ft-the-village-auntie/
Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby (The Double Shift), 20 May 2019
http://thedoubleshift.libsyn.com/lets-talk-about-sex-baby
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