International Female Orgasm Day is on 8 August - A day to celebrate women's right to sexual pleasure. 

In truth, everyday is female orgasm day, but it's great to have a day dedicated to encourage better sex education for women. 

Generally. the female orgasm is not given anywhere near as much attention as its male counterpart, and this has led to a pleasure inequality between the genders, known as the orgasm gap.

Study after study reveal that women orgasm less frequently than men during sexual encounters. A large US study revealed 95% of men usually-always orgasm during sex in comparison to 65% of women. 

Another US study revealed that 85% of men orgasm when sexually intimate, while just 63% of women climax when intimate with a male partner.

A lack of adequate sex education has contributed towards the pleasure disparities between the genders. 

8 August marks International Female Orgasm Day, or the Day of the Female Orgasm! 

It's a day to celebrate women's right to sexual pleasure. 

The annual holiday was established in Brazil by a councilman to encourage men to satisfy their female partners.

Now celebrated globally, International Female Orgasm Day aims to help women embrace their sexuality and encourages greater awareness about the female orgasm.

Women have a God-given right to sexual pleasure and the world should acknowledge this.  

The holiday originated in the Brazilian town of Esperantina where the councillor Arimario Dantas decided to dedicate the day to female orgasm in compensation for the "sexual debt" he owed his wife. 

The councilman proclaimed 8 August as International Female Orgasm Day to honour his wife and as a tribute to women's sexual climax.

Unfortunately many women do not experience climax with a male partner due a number of reasons. There is much stigma and miseducation surrounding female sexuality. 

Although everyday should be female orgasm day, having a dedicated day to celebrate and raise awareness about female orgasm can hopefully lead to more women experiencing orgasm. 

Happy International Female Orgasm Day!

As today (8 August) is International Female Orgasm Day - a day dedicated to celebrating and raising awareness about women's sexual pleasure, here are 10 recommended books to learn about the female anatomy and how women can experience amazing orgasms!  

1. Kunyaza: The Secret to Female Pleasure by Habeeb Akande

Very insightful read on the ancient African sexual practice of kunyaza which has the reputation of female ejaculation and multiple orgasms in women during heterosexual encounters. Originally from Rwanda, east-central Africa, kunyaza is a non-penetrative sexual practice to stimulate the female genitalia with the male member in a tapping motion. Kunyaza examines the cultural impact of Rwanda's pleasure-based sensual tradition and investigates whether it empowers women. Drawing on extensive research, the book argues that kunyaza is an effective method to elicit gushing orgasms in women.

2. She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring A Woman by Ian Kerner 

She Comes First is an essential guidebook on the art of cunnilingus, commonly known as oral sex. This informative book explains how men can sexually satisfy a woman. The book also includes practical advice and diagrams. Men suffering from premature ejaculation may also find this book useful as the author details how he overcome premature ejaculation to become a master cunnilinguist. Kerner's best-selling book is a highly recommended read on oral sex and female pleasure. 

3. Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters - And How to Get It by Laurie Mintz 

The orgasm gap refers to the fact that women orgasm less than men during sex. It is a cultural problem, particularly in Western societies where female pleasure is devalued. In this book, Mintz examines orgasm inequality between the genders and argues that clitoral stimulation is women's most reliable route to orgasm. Written primarily for women, the book also includes a chapter for men.

5. Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel

Therapist Esther Peral examines the paradoxical relationship between domesticity and sexual desire. She explains how to reignite passion in a sexless marriage. Perel looks at the obstacles and anxieties we experience when our quest for secure love clashes with our pursuit of passion. Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as an international couples therapist, Perel examines the complexities of sustaining sexual desire in a long term relationship, and the differences between "good intimacy" and "good sex." Perel argues that love needs closeness but desire needs space to thrive as closeness can stifle desire. A leading voice on erotic intelligence, Perel's Mating in Captivity is an excellent book on the dynamic relationship between love and desire and how to keep eroticism in long term relationships. The book is extremely useful for anyone in a sexless marriage, or someone looking to keep desire and passion alive in their relationship. 

6. Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

A well-researched exploration on why and how women's sexuality works based on groundbreaking research and brain science. This transformative book investigates the mysteries surrounding a woman's arousal, desire and orgasm. Nagoski cuts across multiple disciplines to inform us that the most important factor for women in creating and sustaining a fulfilling sex life is not what they do in the bedroom but how they feel about it. Which means that stress, mood, trust and body image are central factors to a woman's sexual wellbeing. The book argues that once a woman understand these factors, and how to influence them, she can enjoy a better and more pleasurable sexual experience.

7. The Pleasure Gap: American Women and the Unfinished Sexual Revolution by Katherine Rowland

The Pleasure Gap aims to dispel the notion that women should settle for diminished sexual pleasure. Rowland argues that women should take pleasure inequality seriously and understand its causes and effects. Drawing on interviews with dozens of sexual health professionals and 120 American women about their sex lives and desires,  the book argues that gender pleasure disparities is a due to Western's troubled relationship with women's sexual expression and pleasure. The book is an interesting examination on how to close the orgasm gap.

8. The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries About Human Sexuality by Alice Ladas, Beverly Whipple and John Perry 

An international bestseller. This groundbreaking book argued for the existence of the Grafenberg Spot and popularised the term, "G-Spot." Originally published in 1982, the book discusses female ejaculation from a medical perspective and suggests women can experience multiple oragams. Written by leading sexual health professionals, this pioneering book transformed how the Western world understands female sexuality. According to co-author, Beverly Whipple, sex doesn't have to be 'orgasm' goal-orientated. Whipple argues that by moving away from vaginal orgasm being the main focus of sex, women can explore and experience different types of sexual pleasure.

9. The Big O: How to Have Them, Give Them, And Keep Them Coming by Lou Paget  

From female anatomy to emotional health, The Big O addresses the numerous concerns voiced by the many thousands who have attended Lou Paget's sexuality seminars. The book presents the various types of orgasms and how provides illustrated diagrams on how to achieve them. Paget also provides some interesting historical facts about sexual climax and debunks some myths about human sexuality. Written by an experienced sex educator, The Big O is a recommended sex guide for men, women and couples on the science of orgasms. 

10. Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of The Female Orgasm by Nicole Daedone

The truth is that most women do not have satisfying sex lives. Slow Sex claims it can change that. This step-by-step guide teaches men and women how to use the growing practice of Orgasmic Meditation (OM) to slow down, connect emotionally and achieve female sexual satisfaction. The book argues that every woman can become orgasmic. And, with the right partner and the right technique, an intense orgasm could be achieved within 15 minutes! Author Nicole Daedone has been leading the 'slow sex movement' through her organization and workshops on  OM, which focuses on the act of slowing down, tuning in and experiencing a deeper spiritual and physical connection during sex. The book also includes exercises to help enhance reader's 'regular' sex lives, such as Slow Oral for Her, Slow Oral for Him and Slow Sex Intercourse.

In the West, women climax less frequently than men. A US survey found 95% of men usually-always orgasm compared to 65% of women - a phenomenon known as the orgasm gap.

In east and central African societies where female pleasure is sacred, 92% of women orgasm during the ancient sexual practice of Kunyaza, according to a recent survey.

Kunyaza is a traditional sexual practice that could solve the pleasure disparity between the genders.

The orgasm gap is a cultural problem, particularly in societies which devalue female pleasure. Africa’s Kunyaza tradition can solve the West’s “orgasm gap” cultural problem  

A recent survey on the effectiveness of this African practice for eliciting female orgasms, found that 92% of women experienced an orgasm during Kunyaza with a male partner. 

In Rwanda, 80% of women report female ejaculation (or squirting), in comparison to 10% to 54$ of women in western countries. For many African sex educators, Kunyaza is a recommended practice for women to experience orgasms and female ejaculation.

As a UK-based Black male sex educator, my main area of interest is the pleasure gap (or the orgasm gap). Over the past ten years, I have facilitated workshops, participated in panel discussions, and appeared in a recent BBC documentary about the orgasm gap.

Whilst there has been an increase in studies about the sexual pleasure disparity, there remains a dearth of articles and studies on how men can bridge the orgasm gap.

My research reveals that many men and women believe Kunyaaza is a recommended and effective practice for women to experience climax with a male partner.

Kunyaza is a highly effective practice to induce female orgasm and close the gender orgasm gap as it is a non-penetrative sexual practice that concentrates on clitoral stimulation.

Today (31 July) is National Orgasm Day in the UK, USA, Australia and Canada.

The unofficial holiday is a day to celebrate sexual climax, raise awareness about mutual sensuality and encourage closing the gender pleasure gap.

The pleasure gap (also known as the orgasm gap) refers to the disparity in sexual satisfaction rates between men and women. According to studies, women climax less frequently than men during sexual encounters.

A US survey found 95% of men usually-always orgasm compared to 65% of women. In east-central African societies where female pleasure is sacred, 92% of women orgasm with the Kunyaza sexual practice, according to a recent survey.
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To find out more about the orgasm gap and ways men and women can close it with ancient sexual practices check out my books:
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Kunyaza: The Secret to Female Pleasure

A Taste of Honey: Sexuality and Erotology in Islam

Illuminating the Performance: African and Arab Erotology 

Explore the rich legacy of Africans in Islam. 

These 20 books are a good starting point to learn about race and African Muslim history.  

6. The Walking Qur'an: Islamic Education, Embodied Knowledge, and History in West Africa by Rudolph T. Ware III

Spanning a thousand years of history--and bringing the story to the present through ethnographic fieldwork in Senegal, Gambia, and Mauritania--Rudolph Ware documents the profound significance of Qur'an schools for West African Muslim communities. Such schools peacefully brought Islam to much of the region, becoming striking symbols of Muslim identity. Ware shows how in Senegambia the schools became powerful channels for African resistance during the eras of the slave trade and colonization. While illuminating the past, Ware also makes signal contributions to understanding contemporary Islam by demonstrating how the schools' epistemology of embodiment gives expression to classical Islamic frameworks of learning and knowledge.

12. Illuminating the Darkness: The Virtues of Blacks and Abyssinians – Ibn al-Jawzi

Ibn al-Jawzi was a prolific writer , powerful orator and hadith master. Illuminating the Darkness provides a historical summary of the social history of black Africa and the meritorious deeds of some well-known persons of African descent in the eastern Islamic world. In the book, Ibn al-Jawzi attempts to raise the morale of blacks and remind them of their status of noble black personalities in history.  

17. Illuminating the Blackness: Blacks and African Muslims in Brazil by Habeeb Akande 

"The book pieces together a historical account of Brazil’s race relations and the African-Muslim heritage of the country. The book provides readers with an understanding of the origins, concepts and ideologies that have contributed to the Brazilian ideas of race and the significance of skin colour in contemporary Brazil. References are made throughout the book about the significance of Islam within Brazil; from the African Muslims who had first entered Brazil prior to the Portuguese conquests, to the large populations taken from the African continent as slaves during the period of Portuguese colonisation." - Brasiliana Journal for Brazilian Studies 

20. Muslim Cool: Race, Religion, and Hip Hop in the United States by Su'ad Abdul Khabeer

This groundbreaking study of race, religion and popular culture in the 21st century United States focuses on a new concept, “Muslim Cool.” Drawing on over two years of ethnographic research, Su'ad Abdul Khabeer illuminates the ways in which young and multiethnic U.S. Muslims draw on Blackness to construct their identities as Muslims. This is a form of critical Muslim self-making that builds on interconnections and intersections, rather than divisions between “Black” and “Muslim.” Thus, by countering the notion that Blackness and the Muslim experience are fundamentally different, Muslim Cool poses a critical challenge to dominant ideas that Muslims are “foreign” to the United States and puts Blackness at the center of the study of American Islam.