We need to stop fake news about female pleasure!
As a male sex educator whose main area of interest is the gender orgasm gap and sexual satisfaction in women, I am often asked, why do you teach female pleasure?
The answer is simple. There is a lot of fake news about female sexuality, particularly amongst men.
Good news is we can change this with better sex education!
I have come across countless men who hold inaccurate beliefs about how to satisfy a woman.
As a male sex educator whose main area of interest is the gender orgasm gap and sexual satisfaction in women, I am often asked, why do you teach female pleasure?
The answer is simple. There is a lot of fake news about female sexuality, particularly amongst men.
Good news is we can change this with better sex education!
I have come across countless men who hold inaccurate beliefs about how to satisfy a woman.
These include the overemphasis on penetrative sex, how long sex should last, the obsession with penis size, and the disregard of emotional connection and clitoral stimulation to female orgasm.
The truth is most women do not climax through penetrative sex, intercourse lasts for 5 minutes on average, size does not matter for many women, and the vast majority of women require clitoral stimulation and a relaxed mindset to orgasm.
Porn has contributed to misinformation about sex as well as the fact that many men do not speak openly and honestly about their sexual encounters with one another.
In my intimacy workshops, men (and women) are invited to speak frankly about their sexual experiences in a safe space that is free of judgement. Most men who attend my workshops want to satisfy their female partners but do not know how.
The truth is most women do not climax through penetrative sex, intercourse lasts for 5 minutes on average, size does not matter for many women, and the vast majority of women require clitoral stimulation and a relaxed mindset to orgasm.
Porn has contributed to misinformation about sex as well as the fact that many men do not speak openly and honestly about their sexual encounters with one another.
In my intimacy workshops, men (and women) are invited to speak frankly about their sexual experiences in a safe space that is free of judgement. Most men who attend my workshops want to satisfy their female partners but do not know how.
During workshops, we discuss the gender orgasm gap, referring to the fact that women climax less frequently than men during sex, and provide practical tips on how women can orgasm with a male partner.
I have found that many men are reluctant to open up about their sexual insecurities and performance anxieties in the presence of women. For such men, the internet is the main source for their sex education.
To close the orgasm gap, better sex education and two-way communication are essential.
Men must recognise and belief that women have a right to sexual pleasure if we really want to achieve equality in the bedroom. We cannot address this gender inequality without male co-operation.
I have found that many men are reluctant to open up about their sexual insecurities and performance anxieties in the presence of women. For such men, the internet is the main source for their sex education.
To close the orgasm gap, better sex education and two-way communication are essential.
Men must recognise and belief that women have a right to sexual pleasure if we really want to achieve equality in the bedroom. We cannot address this gender inequality without male co-operation.
As today (8 August) is International Female Orgasm Day, it’s a perfect time for men to learn about female pleasure and ensure women come first!
International Female Orgasm Day is an unofficial holiday that was started in Brazil by a councilman to encourage men to satisfy their wives. The day is now celebrated around the world to raise awareness about women’s right to sexual pleasure.
Habeeb Akande, sex educator and author of Kunyaza: The Secret to Female Pleasure
International Female Orgasm Day is an unofficial holiday that was started in Brazil by a councilman to encourage men to satisfy their wives. The day is now celebrated around the world to raise awareness about women’s right to sexual pleasure.
Habeeb Akande, sex educator and author of Kunyaza: The Secret to Female Pleasure
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