Having better sexual relations as a couple has two keys: creativity in the bedroom and sexual empathy. The African Kunyaza technique combines both philosophies and helps you and your partner, have a healthier and more pleasant sexual life.
Every human being wonders how to be better in bed. A few days ago we talked about why couples lose interest in sex. One of the reasons that sexologists gave us was the lack of originality and intercourse too focused on penetration.
These problems find their roots in male sex myths. It has always been thought that man should have a dominant disposition and woman, a submissive disposition. The result of this cliché has caused the forgetting of enjoyment for them in the sex ring (aka your bed). In most cases, this results in female frustration and a bad sex life for both.
Sexual empathy is the solution to make the couple happier in bed. The answer is not found in the best sex apps - which in a way, too. The solution to your question of 'how can I be better in bed' is the search for pleasure for both.
Although socially man is inhibited from emotional pleasure, the inherited physical pleasure model works for them. But what about the woman? How to intensify female orgasm and help make their sex - and consequently, their sex - better?
Experimentation and Kunyaza may be your answer to improve your intercourse.
What is the Kunyaza?
Kunyaza is a traditional sexual practice developed in Rwanda, East-Central Africa. The word 'kunyaza' means 'to urinate' or 'to trigger female ejaculation' in rundi.
This ancient technique consists in stimulating the nerve endings of the vulva with the glans penis, with the fingers. Its greatest peculiarity is the amount of fluid expelled by women during this practice (squirting), in addition to the intensification of the female orgasm.
These problems find their roots in male sex myths. It has always been thought that man should have a dominant disposition and woman, a submissive disposition. The result of this cliché has caused the forgetting of enjoyment for them in the sex ring (aka your bed). In most cases, this results in female frustration and a bad sex life for both.
Sexual empathy is the solution to make the couple happier in bed. The answer is not found in the best sex apps - which in a way, too. The solution to your question of 'how can I be better in bed' is the search for pleasure for both.
Although socially man is inhibited from emotional pleasure, the inherited physical pleasure model works for them. But what about the woman? How to intensify female orgasm and help make their sex - and consequently, their sex - better?
Experimentation and Kunyaza may be your answer to improve your intercourse.
What is the Kunyaza?
Kunyaza is a traditional sexual practice developed in Rwanda, East-Central Africa. The word 'kunyaza' means 'to urinate' or 'to trigger female ejaculation' in rundi.
This ancient technique consists in stimulating the nerve endings of the vulva with the glans penis, with the fingers. Its greatest peculiarity is the amount of fluid expelled by women during this practice (squirting), in addition to the intensification of the female orgasm.
What is the origin of Kunyaza?
According to the Sacred Water documentary by Belgian director Olivier Jourdain, the origin of Kunyaza is legendary.
According to legend, during the Third Dynasty, a king went on a military excursion. The queen, who felt lonely, sought a sexual partner among the royal guard.
Nervous about the reprisals of the king, the guard was unable to penetrate her. Instead, he began rubbing his penis, up and down, against the queen's genitals.
The African sexologist and writer Nsekuye Bizimana, in his book 'Kunyaza', confirms that this practice has a long tradition. According to interviews collected for the work, many people over 70 years of age stated that their grandparents practiced it and that they were responsible for transmitting the story to the following generations.
In Rwanda, female orgasm is a matter of honour and wisdom for men. The women in the documentary explain that it is a true honour for them too. "You feel like a real woman. It's like a dam is broken," says one of the African women interviewed.
Due to the amount of vaginal fluid expelled, according to the documentary "almost a liter", in Rwanda, newly-wed couples receive a banana fiber mat to consummate their marriage. This object serves to protect the couple's mattresses, since it is understood that if the relationship is healthy and the marriage is happy, both will have "many and very wet nights of female orgasms."
Colloquially, due to the noise produced by this practice, Rwandans use the expression "allow the dog to drink water" to refer to having sex.
According to the Sacred Water documentary by Belgian director Olivier Jourdain, the origin of Kunyaza is legendary.
According to legend, during the Third Dynasty, a king went on a military excursion. The queen, who felt lonely, sought a sexual partner among the royal guard.
Nervous about the reprisals of the king, the guard was unable to penetrate her. Instead, he began rubbing his penis, up and down, against the queen's genitals.
The African sexologist and writer Nsekuye Bizimana, in his book 'Kunyaza', confirms that this practice has a long tradition. According to interviews collected for the work, many people over 70 years of age stated that their grandparents practiced it and that they were responsible for transmitting the story to the following generations.
In Rwanda, female orgasm is a matter of honour and wisdom for men. The women in the documentary explain that it is a true honour for them too. "You feel like a real woman. It's like a dam is broken," says one of the African women interviewed.
Due to the amount of vaginal fluid expelled, according to the documentary "almost a liter", in Rwanda, newly-wed couples receive a banana fiber mat to consummate their marriage. This object serves to protect the couple's mattresses, since it is understood that if the relationship is healthy and the marriage is happy, both will have "many and very wet nights of female orgasms."
Colloquially, due to the noise produced by this practice, Rwandans use the expression "allow the dog to drink water" to refer to having sex.
How to practice Kuyanza?
Let's do it. The secret of this practice is in the rhythmic action of the male member around the clitoris, the vulva and the vagina. It is not to press hard or act with intensity. It is a caress that is performed, as we said before, with the glans, fingers or sex toys.
In his book, Bizimana explains that this method is perfect for the preliminaries or as an exclusive practice, since both can reach orgasm. The Kuyanza technique consists of a non-penetrative phase and a progressive penetration phase that are explained as follows:
1. External stimulation
First, it is the stimulation of the labia majora, minora and clitoris with the glans penis. The man should hold his limb with the thumb and index fingers (preferably) and gently caress these areas.
We reiterate, softly. It must be a delicate swing until she begins to demand greater intensity in the movements.
You can try from top to bottom and then alternate movements in circles or zig zag. We suggest that you communicate and observe what reaction your partner has during the movements, to find out how you like it best.
Let's do it. The secret of this practice is in the rhythmic action of the male member around the clitoris, the vulva and the vagina. It is not to press hard or act with intensity. It is a caress that is performed, as we said before, with the glans, fingers or sex toys.
In his book, Bizimana explains that this method is perfect for the preliminaries or as an exclusive practice, since both can reach orgasm. The Kuyanza technique consists of a non-penetrative phase and a progressive penetration phase that are explained as follows:
1. External stimulation
First, it is the stimulation of the labia majora, minora and clitoris with the glans penis. The man should hold his limb with the thumb and index fingers (preferably) and gently caress these areas.
We reiterate, softly. It must be a delicate swing until she begins to demand greater intensity in the movements.
You can try from top to bottom and then alternate movements in circles or zig zag. We suggest that you communicate and observe what reaction your partner has during the movements, to find out how you like it best.
2. Internal stimulation
After vaginal lubrication produced during these preliminaries, the penetration of the vagina begins normally, but without reaching the complete introduction of the limb. The idea is to stimulate the outermost part of the woman's opening without completing the penetration. Sometimes only with the tip.
If the practice is done correctly, the climax will be optimal for both of you and both of you can successfully complete the intercourse.
What is the best posture to practice kuyanza?
According to experts, anyone who facilitates the practice comfortably. Bizimana recommends that you lie on your back while he stands on or near her legs, both facing each other.
Lotus flower, missionary or puppy poses are also some variation positions. You can use your imagination for the most pleasurable position.
How to fully enjoy the Kuyanza?
Lubrication is essential in this practice to avoid annoying friction, either by gels or saliva. According to the author of the play 'Kuyanza', the removal of pubic hair in the couple could also facilitate this practice.
Original article by Ana Arjona for GQ Spain with some amendments.
After vaginal lubrication produced during these preliminaries, the penetration of the vagina begins normally, but without reaching the complete introduction of the limb. The idea is to stimulate the outermost part of the woman's opening without completing the penetration. Sometimes only with the tip.
If the practice is done correctly, the climax will be optimal for both of you and both of you can successfully complete the intercourse.
What is the best posture to practice kuyanza?
According to experts, anyone who facilitates the practice comfortably. Bizimana recommends that you lie on your back while he stands on or near her legs, both facing each other.
Lotus flower, missionary or puppy poses are also some variation positions. You can use your imagination for the most pleasurable position.
How to fully enjoy the Kuyanza?
Lubrication is essential in this practice to avoid annoying friction, either by gels or saliva. According to the author of the play 'Kuyanza', the removal of pubic hair in the couple could also facilitate this practice.
Original article by Ana Arjona for GQ Spain with some amendments.
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