Sex and orgasms get better as women age due to confidence and hormones.
Women over 36 have the most fulfilling sex lives according to a survey by contraception app Natural Cycles.
The survey of 2,618 women assessed levels of:
The women were divided into three age groups:
Which Age Do Women Have Better Orgasms?
Women aged 36 and over had the highest number of orgasms and the most enjoyable sex. 58% of the older group of women said they also had better quality orgasms. Almost 10% more than younger women.
“The results of the survey send out a really positive message about something us women have known and expected for some time,” said Amanda Bonnier, brand manager at Natural Cycles which conducted the survey, “as you get older and get to know your body better, you can have a more enjoyable sex life and feel confident about yourself.” Bonnier told The Huffington Post.
"Sex in your mid-30s and particularly after 40 is, in most cases, purely for pleasure," Cheryl Sloane, owner of sexual wellness retailer, G-Boutique told Bustle. "If a woman has had a healthy and active sex life, she knows what feels good and has the confidence to speak openly about her pleasure. With some adjustments this can be the beginning of decades of love and connection that rival those early years."
The survey of 2,618 women assessed levels of:
- sexual satisfaction (intercourse frequency and partner satisfaction),
- attraction (self-perception and partner’s perception), and
- orgasm (frequency and enjoyment).
The women were divided into three age groups:
- younger (23 and below),
- middle (24 to 35), and
- older (36 and over).
Which Age Do Women Have Better Orgasms?
Women aged 36 and over had the highest number of orgasms and the most enjoyable sex. 58% of the older group of women said they also had better quality orgasms. Almost 10% more than younger women.
“The results of the survey send out a really positive message about something us women have known and expected for some time,” said Amanda Bonnier, brand manager at Natural Cycles which conducted the survey, “as you get older and get to know your body better, you can have a more enjoyable sex life and feel confident about yourself.” Bonnier told The Huffington Post.
"Sex in your mid-30s and particularly after 40 is, in most cases, purely for pleasure," Cheryl Sloane, owner of sexual wellness retailer, G-Boutique told Bustle. "If a woman has had a healthy and active sex life, she knows what feels good and has the confidence to speak openly about her pleasure. With some adjustments this can be the beginning of decades of love and connection that rival those early years."
Laying in bed together can help couples relax, Source: Best Life Online
Why Does Sex Get Better With Age?
Confidence is key to having great sex. As women age, their sexual confidence tends to increase, which leads to a more fulfilling sex life. Women over 30 tend to be more comfortable with their bodies and have a better understanding of what they desire.
According to the survey, women aged 36 and over were the most confident in their skin with 80% stating they were happy with their appearance, saying they felt “sexy and attractive.” In comparison, 70% of women aged 23 and below were confidence about their appearance, and 40% of women aged 24 to 35 said they were happy with their appearance.
"I have found that many women are more comfortable in their own skin and bodies once they reach their 40s," says Tiffany Yelverton, sex educator, coach, and founder of sexual wellness company, Entice Me. "I find many women get to 40 and no longer care as much what others think, which releases anxiety and creates more confidence. At this time in life, typically the children are older and the risk of them crawling into bed is less so sex, masturbation, and self-care increases."
Experience also plays a part, which is linked to increased confidence levels. "Women in their 40s have had more experiences and know their own desires and needs and are mature enough to communicate them," she says. "Confidence is sexy and others pick up on that, which I know makes me feel more sexual."
Many women in their 40s experience a sense of self-liberation, increased libido and body confidence. As women age, they tend to enjoy sex and intimacy on their own terms, where they prioritise their pleasure.
"Women start having the best sex of their lives as soon as they realize who they are and how they fit in the world," said sexual wellness couple Dr. Cristina Bosch and Dr. John Robinson of The Sex Docs. "Sex is about connecting with yourself through the co-creative act of intercourse. But this starts with knowing yourself first. If you don’t know yourself, then you can’t really express to your partner your needs, wants, desires, and fantasies."
According to Bosch and Robinson, hormone levels can increase as women approach their 40s which is why many women experience a heightened sex drive in their 40s.
Confidence is key to having great sex. As women age, their sexual confidence tends to increase, which leads to a more fulfilling sex life. Women over 30 tend to be more comfortable with their bodies and have a better understanding of what they desire.
According to the survey, women aged 36 and over were the most confident in their skin with 80% stating they were happy with their appearance, saying they felt “sexy and attractive.” In comparison, 70% of women aged 23 and below were confidence about their appearance, and 40% of women aged 24 to 35 said they were happy with their appearance.
"I have found that many women are more comfortable in their own skin and bodies once they reach their 40s," says Tiffany Yelverton, sex educator, coach, and founder of sexual wellness company, Entice Me. "I find many women get to 40 and no longer care as much what others think, which releases anxiety and creates more confidence. At this time in life, typically the children are older and the risk of them crawling into bed is less so sex, masturbation, and self-care increases."
Experience also plays a part, which is linked to increased confidence levels. "Women in their 40s have had more experiences and know their own desires and needs and are mature enough to communicate them," she says. "Confidence is sexy and others pick up on that, which I know makes me feel more sexual."
Many women in their 40s experience a sense of self-liberation, increased libido and body confidence. As women age, they tend to enjoy sex and intimacy on their own terms, where they prioritise their pleasure.
"Women start having the best sex of their lives as soon as they realize who they are and how they fit in the world," said sexual wellness couple Dr. Cristina Bosch and Dr. John Robinson of The Sex Docs. "Sex is about connecting with yourself through the co-creative act of intercourse. But this starts with knowing yourself first. If you don’t know yourself, then you can’t really express to your partner your needs, wants, desires, and fantasies."
According to Bosch and Robinson, hormone levels can increase as women approach their 40s which is why many women experience a heightened sex drive in their 40s.
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Why Women’s Sex Drive Increases in Their 40s?
“Women in their late 30s or early 40s need to be in the right state of mind to engage in sexual intercourse,” says Dr. Sonja Bethune, a licensed clinical psychologist to SheKnows. “Foreplay becomes essential at this stage in a woman’s life. A woman in her late 20s or early 30s may have no problem at all getting aroused, since this is typically when a woman’s sex drive increases based on her lifespan.”
Dr. Jane L. Frederick suggests that social change may be the reason behind why women experience an increased libido in their 40s. “As a woman ages, she may become more comfortable with sexuality, or in some cases if she has not conceived a child, there may be an increased desire to procreate, thus creating an increase in her sex drive,” Frederick says.
Sex blogger and mother of three, Katie Smith noticed her “libido was suddenly awake again” after her 41st birthday. Despite previously enjoy sex and intimacy, she noticed her sex drive mellowed in her early to mid-30s.
Explaining why she feels more sexual in her 40s, Smith says, “Years of experience and feeling comfortable in our skin as well as our partners having a vasectomy or some other more freeing form of birth control is going to make us in the mood for more intimacy too. We are able to be more spontaneous, and that can be very exciting. We also find ourselves with a little more time and freedom — especially if our kids aren’t crawling into bed with us every night or needing so much from us during the day.”
Some women experience a “sexual peak” in their 40s. Dr. Katharine O’Connell White, an assistant professor of obstetrics and gynecology, says the "sexual peak" women experience in their 40s is mostly due to children being older and more independent, “so you have more space to be you.”
Women in their 40s also have to deal with the effects of aging, and the negatively affect it may have on their sex drive. “Accept the signs of aging on your body: stretch marks, C-section scars,” White says. “Fighting aging is not conducive to feeling sexually free.”
“Women in their late 30s or early 40s need to be in the right state of mind to engage in sexual intercourse,” says Dr. Sonja Bethune, a licensed clinical psychologist to SheKnows. “Foreplay becomes essential at this stage in a woman’s life. A woman in her late 20s or early 30s may have no problem at all getting aroused, since this is typically when a woman’s sex drive increases based on her lifespan.”
Dr. Jane L. Frederick suggests that social change may be the reason behind why women experience an increased libido in their 40s. “As a woman ages, she may become more comfortable with sexuality, or in some cases if she has not conceived a child, there may be an increased desire to procreate, thus creating an increase in her sex drive,” Frederick says.
Sex blogger and mother of three, Katie Smith noticed her “libido was suddenly awake again” after her 41st birthday. Despite previously enjoy sex and intimacy, she noticed her sex drive mellowed in her early to mid-30s.
Explaining why she feels more sexual in her 40s, Smith says, “Years of experience and feeling comfortable in our skin as well as our partners having a vasectomy or some other more freeing form of birth control is going to make us in the mood for more intimacy too. We are able to be more spontaneous, and that can be very exciting. We also find ourselves with a little more time and freedom — especially if our kids aren’t crawling into bed with us every night or needing so much from us during the day.”
Some women experience a “sexual peak” in their 40s. Dr. Katharine O’Connell White, an assistant professor of obstetrics and gynecology, says the "sexual peak" women experience in their 40s is mostly due to children being older and more independent, “so you have more space to be you.”
Women in their 40s also have to deal with the effects of aging, and the negatively affect it may have on their sex drive. “Accept the signs of aging on your body: stretch marks, C-section scars,” White says. “Fighting aging is not conducive to feeling sexually free.”
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Why Sexual Pleasure Is More Important Than Sexual Activity
A sexual wellness survey of 3,000 people by LoveHoney found that 63% of respondents said sex plays an important role in overall happiness. Most of the women felt that monogamy was key to a happier sex life, with 81% saying they can have a great long-lasting sex life with the same person.
A study of sexually active older women found that sexual satisfaction in women increases with age and those not engaging in sex are satisfied with their sex lives. A majority of the women reported frequent arousal and achieved orgasm (67.1%) most of the time or always, despite some having low sexual desire. The median age of the study was 67 years.
Regardless of partner status or sexual activity, 61% of women in the study were satisfied with their overall sex life. "In this study, sexual activity was not always necessary for sexual satisfaction. Those who were not sexually active may have achieved sexual satisfaction through touching, caressing, or other intimacies developed over the course of a long relationship," said the study's first author Susan Trompeter.
"Emotional and physical closeness to the partner may be more important than experiencing orgasm. A more positive approach to female sexual health focusing on sexual satisfaction may be more beneficial to women than a focus limited to female sexual activity or dysfunction," Trompeter concludes.
A sexual wellness survey of 3,000 people by LoveHoney found that 63% of respondents said sex plays an important role in overall happiness. Most of the women felt that monogamy was key to a happier sex life, with 81% saying they can have a great long-lasting sex life with the same person.
A study of sexually active older women found that sexual satisfaction in women increases with age and those not engaging in sex are satisfied with their sex lives. A majority of the women reported frequent arousal and achieved orgasm (67.1%) most of the time or always, despite some having low sexual desire. The median age of the study was 67 years.
Regardless of partner status or sexual activity, 61% of women in the study were satisfied with their overall sex life. "In this study, sexual activity was not always necessary for sexual satisfaction. Those who were not sexually active may have achieved sexual satisfaction through touching, caressing, or other intimacies developed over the course of a long relationship," said the study's first author Susan Trompeter.
"Emotional and physical closeness to the partner may be more important than experiencing orgasm. A more positive approach to female sexual health focusing on sexual satisfaction may be more beneficial to women than a focus limited to female sexual activity or dysfunction," Trompeter concludes.
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