From breathing exercises to muscle training, these simple tips help prolong the pleasure of penetration.
Since time immemorial, men have been concerned with bedroom performance. How to last longer and satisfy their female partner has worried men for centuries. “According to the Kamasutra one of the greatest obstacles to ultimate pleasure is the mistiming of the orgasm” says Seema Anand, author The Arts of Seduction. Men generally attain orgasm far more quickly than women do.
A study found 95% of heterosexual men said they “usually or always orgasm” during sexual intercourse, in comparison to 65% of heterosexual women. This phenomenon is known as the ‘orgasm gap.’ How long it takes for both men and women to orgasm, may be a crucial factor for this gap.
1 in 3 men suffer from premature ejaculation – orgasming within two minutes of intercourse. Many more men suffer from “rapid ejaculation” – orgasming quicker than it takes them of their partner to feel satisfied.
As it’s International Female Orgasm Day (8 August) – a day dedicated to female pleasure, this article outlines ten practical tips for men to improve their sexual endurance with their female partner.
Since time immemorial, men have been concerned with bedroom performance. How to last longer and satisfy their female partner has worried men for centuries. “According to the Kamasutra one of the greatest obstacles to ultimate pleasure is the mistiming of the orgasm” says Seema Anand, author The Arts of Seduction. Men generally attain orgasm far more quickly than women do.
A study found 95% of heterosexual men said they “usually or always orgasm” during sexual intercourse, in comparison to 65% of heterosexual women. This phenomenon is known as the ‘orgasm gap.’ How long it takes for both men and women to orgasm, may be a crucial factor for this gap.
1 in 3 men suffer from premature ejaculation – orgasming within two minutes of intercourse. Many more men suffer from “rapid ejaculation” – orgasming quicker than it takes them of their partner to feel satisfied.
As it’s International Female Orgasm Day (8 August) – a day dedicated to female pleasure, this article outlines ten practical tips for men to improve their sexual endurance with their female partner.
1. The Edging Technique
Edging is a form of orgasm control where you decrease stimulation just before reaching the ‘point of no return.’ Edging is one of the most effective ways to train yourself to last longer during intercourse. It is also a common technique for avoiding premature ejaculation.
Practising this technique can help you teach your mind and body to better control your orgasm response and prolong intercourse.
The technique involves bringing yourself right to the edge of orgasm before stopping all stimulation until you have your excitement under control.
2. The Squeeze Technique
When you are nearing climax, withdraw your penis and squeeze below the head of your penis, until the urge to come passes.
Apply firm pressure with your thumb and forefinger when squeezing the penis head. As the highly aroused sensation subsides, your body will return to a less aroused state.
The squeeze technique can help you last longer in bed by pushing blood out of the penis and momentarily decreasing sexual tension, which represses the ejaculatory response, says sex therapist and author of She Comes First, Ian Kerner.
3. Slow Thrusting
Good sex is a marathon, not a sprint. Instead of pounding like a jackhammer, take your time to penetrate slowly.
Going slowly is more sensuous, intimate, and pleasurable. Slow strokes will increase pleasure and prolong lovemaking.
Changing the tempo and angle of pelvic thrusting helps delay ejaculation and extend the session!
Edging is a form of orgasm control where you decrease stimulation just before reaching the ‘point of no return.’ Edging is one of the most effective ways to train yourself to last longer during intercourse. It is also a common technique for avoiding premature ejaculation.
Practising this technique can help you teach your mind and body to better control your orgasm response and prolong intercourse.
The technique involves bringing yourself right to the edge of orgasm before stopping all stimulation until you have your excitement under control.
2. The Squeeze Technique
When you are nearing climax, withdraw your penis and squeeze below the head of your penis, until the urge to come passes.
Apply firm pressure with your thumb and forefinger when squeezing the penis head. As the highly aroused sensation subsides, your body will return to a less aroused state.
The squeeze technique can help you last longer in bed by pushing blood out of the penis and momentarily decreasing sexual tension, which represses the ejaculatory response, says sex therapist and author of She Comes First, Ian Kerner.
3. Slow Thrusting
Good sex is a marathon, not a sprint. Instead of pounding like a jackhammer, take your time to penetrate slowly.
Going slowly is more sensuous, intimate, and pleasurable. Slow strokes will increase pleasure and prolong lovemaking.
Changing the tempo and angle of pelvic thrusting helps delay ejaculation and extend the session!
4. Pursue Pleasure Not Porn Performance
“Porn is performance,” sex educator The Village Auntie says. Great sex is about ultimately about mutual pleasure, not personal performance.
Instead of trying to f*ck like a porn star, make love like an accomplished lover.
Many women prefer long foreplay over quick thrusting. Communicate with your lady to find out what she wants and act accordingly. Remember her pleasure is priority.
5. Change Positions
Experimenting with different positions and sensations helps some men last longer in bed, according to sex therapist Dr. Jane Greer. “The more awkward and unfamiliar, the better,” she says.
Licensed sex psychotherapist Vanesa Martin recommends experimenting with “tiring or tricky” positions to delay ejaculation. You may find yourself less likely to come if your mind is focused on perfecting the new lovemaking position.
6. Think Non-Sexual Thoughts
The Kamasutra advises that during lovemaking the man should constantly think of rivers, woods, caves, mountains or even a favourite arc!
Thinking non-sexual thoughts is a useful trick to delay ejaculation and make you proceed more slowly and gently.
7. Kegel Exercises
Kegel exercises strengthen the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle of the pelvic floor, which can help control and delay ejaculation, studies have found.
The easiest way for you to find the PC muscle is to stop urinating mid-stream and tense. You’re using the PC muscle to do that!
Now you have located the PC muscle, you have to train and strengthen it. To do this, contract your PC muscles and hold the contraction for three to five seconds, and then release for three seconds.
The exercise can be done whilst sitting, standing or walking. Practise in sets of ten reps per day to strengthen the PC muscle.
During intercourse, contracting your PC muscle when close to the point of no return will prevent ejaculation.
“Porn is performance,” sex educator The Village Auntie says. Great sex is about ultimately about mutual pleasure, not personal performance.
Instead of trying to f*ck like a porn star, make love like an accomplished lover.
Many women prefer long foreplay over quick thrusting. Communicate with your lady to find out what she wants and act accordingly. Remember her pleasure is priority.
5. Change Positions
Experimenting with different positions and sensations helps some men last longer in bed, according to sex therapist Dr. Jane Greer. “The more awkward and unfamiliar, the better,” she says.
Licensed sex psychotherapist Vanesa Martin recommends experimenting with “tiring or tricky” positions to delay ejaculation. You may find yourself less likely to come if your mind is focused on perfecting the new lovemaking position.
6. Think Non-Sexual Thoughts
The Kamasutra advises that during lovemaking the man should constantly think of rivers, woods, caves, mountains or even a favourite arc!
Thinking non-sexual thoughts is a useful trick to delay ejaculation and make you proceed more slowly and gently.
7. Kegel Exercises
Kegel exercises strengthen the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle of the pelvic floor, which can help control and delay ejaculation, studies have found.
The easiest way for you to find the PC muscle is to stop urinating mid-stream and tense. You’re using the PC muscle to do that!
Now you have located the PC muscle, you have to train and strengthen it. To do this, contract your PC muscles and hold the contraction for three to five seconds, and then release for three seconds.
The exercise can be done whilst sitting, standing or walking. Practise in sets of ten reps per day to strengthen the PC muscle.
During intercourse, contracting your PC muscle when close to the point of no return will prevent ejaculation.
8. Take Breaks During Sex
Taking breaks during your lovemaking session is a simple and effective way to slow down, savour the moment, and increase mutual pleasure.
When things feel as though they are reaching a conclusion prematurely, stop and do something that buys time.
9. The Kunyaza Technique
The kunyaza technique involves the tapping stimulation of the clitoris and labia minora with the penis head to increase mutual pleasure.
During penetrative intercourse, withdraw your penis as you approach climax and perform kunyaza. Whilst performing kunyaza, massage her clitoral hood with your penis to maintain stimulation until the sensation to climax passes.
Once the sensation has passed, proceed to penetrate again. Kunyaza can help improve your ability to delay ejaculation.
10. Mindfulness and Breathing Exercises
Practising mindfulness and breathing exercises can help delay ejaculation. Some men find focused breathing can almost mute the sensation on their penis.
During sex, taking a deep breath in for eight to ten seconds via pursed lips and a deep breath out for six to eight seconds will release the tension and help delay the ejaculatory reflex.
The increased oxygen flow can increases the erection’s firmness and keen you in control of your body.
Taking breaks during your lovemaking session is a simple and effective way to slow down, savour the moment, and increase mutual pleasure.
When things feel as though they are reaching a conclusion prematurely, stop and do something that buys time.
9. The Kunyaza Technique
The kunyaza technique involves the tapping stimulation of the clitoris and labia minora with the penis head to increase mutual pleasure.
During penetrative intercourse, withdraw your penis as you approach climax and perform kunyaza. Whilst performing kunyaza, massage her clitoral hood with your penis to maintain stimulation until the sensation to climax passes.
Once the sensation has passed, proceed to penetrate again. Kunyaza can help improve your ability to delay ejaculation.
10. Mindfulness and Breathing Exercises
Practising mindfulness and breathing exercises can help delay ejaculation. Some men find focused breathing can almost mute the sensation on their penis.
During sex, taking a deep breath in for eight to ten seconds via pursed lips and a deep breath out for six to eight seconds will release the tension and help delay the ejaculatory reflex.
The increased oxygen flow can increases the erection’s firmness and keen you in control of your body.
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